Just take a moment to observe the people moving about in the world around you. In traffic. In line at the grocery store. At work. People are so ugly to each other. So selfish. So mean. It’s everywhere. They have no respect for one another, and they think it’s necessary. People have come to believe that they must put themselves first – above and ahead of everyone else. We are convinced that this is the way of the world, and we justify this ugliness by telling ourselves that everyone else is ugly, too. Reflect on this for a moment.
Kill or be killed. Look out for number one. If I don’t, someone else will.
It doesn’t have to be this way. Life shouldn’t be this intolerable. And it can all be different if we are willing to acknowledge exactly two things:
The world isn’t full of bad people, it’s full of sad people.
If we can carefully and honestly assess questions such as these, and have the courage to make choices based on our responses, the results are life-changing. This is of course far easier said than done, but that’s why I’m here – to make the case that we can all do it.
I have pushed as hard as I could in the opposite direction. It didn’t work out. We will never experience the kind of joy and contentment that we are capable of experiencing if we try to fit into roles that don’t match who we are, and the harder we try, the more painful it becomes.
That’s why I’m here. To teach myself and others to choose happiness. To demonstrate an alternative. To show that it can be done.
My path to the present has taken a long and varied arc, and I have been (or tried to be) many things. A lawyer. A bartender. A salesmen. A teacher. I have made copies and airplanes and cocktails with varying degrees of ability and success. I have run movie projectors and argued before my state’s supreme court. But I couldn’t find anything that made me feel content.
I didn’t feel content because I was in pursuit of the wrong things.
Who you are should absolutely dictate what you do. That is the path to contentment. Consider for a moment the following questions:
There is an epidemic of unhappiness. I find myself surrounded by cynical, desperate souls that are fighting their way through life and waiting for what happens next. We have developed a pathological self-centeredness, and we believe that chasing money and status and things will make us happy.
We have convinced ourselves that these things are the path to salvation because everyone around us seems convinced, too. We have gotten very good at lying to one another, and to ourselves. We have gotten very good at pretending that we are happy, even though the evidence to the contrary is overwhelming. Indeed, the pattern is unmistakable. We are all angry. And sad. And scared. Mostly scared.
My wish is that The Blessed Bohemian will serve some very specific purposes. I want to share my journey toward contentment so that other people will see that there is a way to get there, and as a way of holding myself accountable for the changes I’ve committed to making. I want to provide a means for like-minded individuals to connect with me and one another, because I think that changing the world will be easier for all of us if we have a little help. Finally, I want to inspire and encourage others to live in harmony with their values, talents and passions.
I think we can all find our purpose. I think our lives can have more meaning. I believe we can cultivate freedom, and in the process, redefine prosperity. I believe that we can be happy.
Blessed: An adjective meaning blissfully happy, contented, or fortunate.
Bohemian: An adjective describing a person who lives free of regard for conventional rules or practices.
These terms will define the scope of our discussions here. The old way simply doesn’t work. This is the Way of the Blessed Bohemian. I am committing to defining the scope of my life by these same terms, and I hope you’ll join in the discussion.