Kill Them With Kindness

Nobody’s going to do it for us.

3. There is hope. As your attorney I advise you, there is no law that says we have to play by their rules. This idea was also embedded in my previous post, but I’d like to elaborate.

I make choices that lessen the impact of “their” choices on me. You have all the freedom in the world to do that, too: Close your bank account. Skip grad school. Grow some of your own food. Take it out in trade. Ride a bike. Read a book. Quit borrowing money.

You get the idea.

In addition, I choose to be an optimist to the extent possible, and I try and share that optimism. I try to cultivate compassion and gratitude and patience in every moment of my life, and this allows me to be happy no matter what Wally Wall Street does with my student loan payments. He can choke on them, for all I care, because I still have a beautiful wife, an amazing little girl, and another little one on the way. I still have my friends, my books, my MP3 collection and my guitars. “They” can still be as greedy and selfish as they darn well please, and “we” can still take a long walk while the sun comes up, drink cold beer on the front porch, and sing songs to our children – and there is nothing they can do to take those things away from us. Not ever. I promise.

They can only make it as bad for us as we let them. Please don’t loose sight of that.

The North Wind and the Sun saw a man walking and began to argue over which one of them would first be able to make the man remove his cloak.

Arrogantly, the wind blew as hard as it could at the walking man in an attempt to blow his cloak right off of his back, but the harder the wind blew, the tighter the man pulled his cloak around his shoulders. The wind blew and blew but could not remove the walking man’s cloak.

Smiling, the sun simply parted the clouds and shone down in all its warmth and kindness at the walking man. The man smiled back, and happily removed his own cloak.

Where force fails, kindness often prevails.